Should We Forgive Mistreatment

 

Many people say you should never forgive those who have hurt you. That is not entirely an unwise statement but needs serious reshaping. First and most important, you need to understand yourself.   Forgiveness does not mean you erase memory. It also doesn’t mean that memory chases you forever like an enraged beast. We are afraid of forgiving anyone because we do not understand the consequences.  Forgiving doesn’t mean that you give in to the kind of person who wounds you over and over again in the same kind of way. It doesn’t mean becoming more vulnerable to attack. Forgiveness does not let you be a victim.

You need to uncover why you surrenders to mistreatment. Even that you seek it out. This compulsion comes from mistreatment during your early years. For example, I had a lying, bloviating father who spoke with fervor and would attack me if I questioned him in any way. Fast forward to adult mistreatment. I tend to give in to people who present themselves as experts and are hurt if I do not agree with them. The more I give into that person the harder it is to stop. I feel inexplicable fear. It is like sliding into emotional, physical and financial hell. It is the hell of my childhood.

Know your wounded inner child. See how the people you allow to wound you resemble the original wounding one. When such a person gets into the I am going to hurt you mood for doing or being this or that, take courage. Force yourself to act courageous. Call attention to what they are doing and if they cannot stop or even do not understand what you say, it is time to leave. Probably for good.

It is like a dog that bites the extended hand. Of you know the dog is a biter, do not extent your hand.  Do not reach for the dog in hope the dog has changed. If the assaulting adult seems to like or even love you after you surrender to the kind of wishes which do you some kind of harm, even to your spirit, what kind of love is that? Expecting a close relationship with an assaultive person has nothing to do with forgiveness. It is accepting misery as your lot in life.

You learn how far to go with a person who intends to hurt because they have done it before. Your spirit, your everything will be damaged by surrender. Your boundaries in terms of what you will allow need to be based on experience. Do not apologize for setting limits. Restraint is your right and privilege.  Forgive the biter for attempting to bite because they are a biter but do not forget that they bite. A proper distance creates forgiveness. If the attacker will not accept your restraint and attacks you for it, feel free to take your leave. Forgiveness is not slavery.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Where Does the Money Go

How come most cannot afford the rent, that there is no housing for all, that our schools are falling apart, that health care is almost non-existent? Surely you know it in some personal way yourself.

Where is our tax money going? Mostly, it is going to war. Trump, the self-designated billionaire (how much of that a loan) and hope-to-be president for life (a king), exemplifies the love for money. He recently added a huge amount to the already bloated military budget, one unmatched in the world. Do we really need a new nuclear armed ship? Do we really need such protection which is forcing other threatened nations to throw their money into the military pot? He has even encouraged our NATO allies to increase their military spending to 4% of their GDP.

Who is making this insane decision. It is a very few people, and I mean those extremely few who own the banks. The banks, like all corporations, have only one goal: to make money with their investments. And what investment makes the most? War.

War requires investment in personnel, transport, equipment, technology, and weapons, tanks, bombs, bullets, and whatever is the killer of the moment. War requires investment in doing something about the destruction our war has created. Most of the agencies doing the after-war fixing are American. The money goes out of one pocket into another.

Do we have to fall for war-desiring corporate owned newspaper calling for defense against whatever boogie-man will hit us next? Do we need to put money into destruction rather than into schools and health care and help for the poor and upkeep for our parks (many now for sale to get the wood and oil)? Do we need to let businesses leave the country for places where the people will work for less; to bribe the corporations to return by not paying taxes? It is ludicrous!

What can we do about it?

We still mostly can vote. Young people who have not settled into comfortable or frightened passivity can run for office, and voters can keep their finger on the elected pulse of spending. We need not to stop spending our lives watching tv or talking to people who agree with us on the internet. Those who are controlled by the bank’s desire for war can be stopped by people marching in the street, coming to the elected person’s door and indicate they soon are out of office.

 

Are Cuban Healthier Than We Are?

Let us look at the differences between the US treatment of “us” and the Cuban of “them.” The Cubans have free for service health clinics in every neighborhood. They can go whenever needed. Us citizens have insurance policies whose basis is making a profit. They are corporations whose focus is monetary gain. The same with the  pharmaceutical industry that creates the drugs the doctors use  and the doctors who work like racehorses running the course to make megabucks, allotting maybe 5 minutes to see and hear a client’s complaint, to employ a stethoscope and write a prescription. What do they know about the patient’s life? Nothing. No time for that.  They make money depending on numbers.

Then there is what doctors have been taught to do and know in medical schools funded by the pharmaceutical industry with corporatists on the medical school board. They learn to prescribe, prescribe, prescribe the latest pill which is usually the old pill with a slight change in color, packaging or some other minor addition or subtraction to hold onto the patent.

What is the real goal of medicine today? It is to treat, “see you again soon.” How does this differ from Cuba? Thanks to the import restrictions placed by the US, they cannot get the latest pills. Many have organic gardens in front of back yards. They also cannot get polluting sprays (and new cars.) It sounds horribly depriving to US citizen who “believe” in medicine and doesn’t want the responsibility of selfcare.

Sure, they go to the gym. But they also eat lots of sugar and fried food, and drink alcohol and take lots of pills to sleep and awaken and function and are exhausted and anxious and driven and confused about what to do. Usually, they do more of same. It is a childish belief to think that you simply haven’t done enough when things don’t go right.

The Cubans with their front yard organic gardens and colorful 50s cars meandering along, have-to undo whatever harm their diet and lack of exercise and whatever bad habits they indulge in to undermine their health. The Cuban doctors this. The doctor is not there to treat, he/she is there to cure. We Americans act as if a diagnosis is ours for life. They see it as a symptom of a life style you must change.

We have been told to surrender to the pill industry. We are misinformed.

Winner Take All

Those who own the earth we live on are gamblers who set the stakes. For them, it all boils down to money. It is a conversion factor from life into chips. The one who has the most chips when the tally closes, wins. Closure is set by mass extinction.

People are called to mine various resources. Their technique, make it fast does not fit in with supporting life. Take Mountain Top Removal, the pollution of streams, the landslides killing people.  Money makes the decision. Some dig for oil, some for precious metals, diamonds or this or that. Some raise food, monocropping using chemicals that kill insects, Monarch butterflies and and kill us as well;  They raise animals in vast quantities in factory settings. Chickens and turkeys and pigs are raised  in tiny spaces. Cattle eat out of vats of corn. Chickens are bred  to have such such huge breasts they  can barely walk. Many fall  and are trarompled. All are upset by crowding and by not the living in  an open field to eat worms and bugs and plants and run about. Most are given anti biotics to ward off pre-harvest death. The anti biotic remains in their flesh which we eventually consume. Among other things, we soon will be unreactive to anit biotics when we need them to fight infection. Peole will die from a cut on their leg.

Since they number in the thousands, their shit and piss is collected and drained into huge ponds. Hurricanes release floods of waste onto all that is in its path. Waste  is mechanically blown into the air when the pond gets too full to rain down on locals whose houses lose all value. The people’s who live in this flood of waste lead hellish lives.

What about the politicians who set the rules which protect their citizens or instead  away from consequences? Take Jerry Brown, Governor of California mourns the huge  number of fires ravaging California. Incidentaly, prisoners are paid $2/day to fire fight. They  are not given enough instruction to be fire fighters once released from prison. Is that another save money proposition for those who own the prisons?

What is the gambler’s stake in this catastrophe? Who is profiting from ignoring it. The soil is dry from drought. The trees lack water to fight flames. Planes spread chamicals to shield the  earh from the sun, a fact denied by congress. It is not jet trail when a plane goes back and forth to create parallel lines of chemicals. The chemicals including mercury rain down onto the soil and into the roots of tree which kills them. They easily burst into flames when fire comes near.

The politician, here Jerry Brown, states helpless consternation and that things can only get worse. But wait! Jerry Brown is allowing oil wells to be dug in California. The oil which is sold then heats the atmosphere which creates the flames. Is Brown too stupid to see the connection. Or is a payoff in his pocket? How many politicans are in the gamble now, hoping to miss the final extinction while becoming wealthy?

Rape the Earth

Those who own the earth we live on are gamblers who set the stakes. For them, it all boils down to money. It is a conversion factor of life into chips. The one who has the most chips when the tally closes, wins. Closure is set by mass extinction.

People are called to mine various resources. Zooming ahead to the finish line does not support life. Take Mountain Top Removal. Miners no longer work underground. Most are replaced by machines. The mountain top is shaved down to the line of coal. Soil and chemicals fall into streams. The land is polluted. There are landslides which kill people. Money makes the decision. More coal to sell the world’s great polluter.

Some dig for oil, for precious metals, diamonds for this or that. Some go into factory farming. They do monocropping which sets us up for a virus that will wipe out all we eat. They use chemicals that kill insects including the Monarch butterfly and will kill us as well; They raise animals in vast numbers. Chickens and turkeys and pigs are raised in tiny spaces. Cattle are also kept from grazing and eat out of vats of corn. Chickens are bred to have such huge breasts they can barely walk. Many fall and are trampled. All are upset by crowding and by not the living in open fields to eat worms and bugs and plants and run about. Most are given anti biotics to ward off pre-harvest death. The anti-biotic remains in their flesh which we eventually consume. Among other consequences, we soon will be unreactive to antibiotics when we need them to fight infection. People will die from a cut on their leg.

Since the factory farm animals, number in the thousands, their shit and piss, falls into pipes beneath the floor then collected and drained into huge ponds. Hurricanes pass over capturing the waste if releases onto all in its path. Some factory farms blow the waste into the air when the pond gets too full. This spray rains down on locals whose houses lose all value. The people who live in this flood of waste lead hellish lives.

What about the politicians who set the rules to protect their citizens but hide their eyes from consequences? Take Jerry Brown, Governor of California who mourns the huge number of fires ravaging California. Incidentally, prisoners are paid $2/day to fire fight. They are not given enough instruction to be professional fire fighters once released from prison. Is that another save money proposition for those who own the prisons?

What is the gambler’s stake in these catastrophes? Who profits by ignoring it. The soil is dry from drought. That is the consequence of the Greenhouse effect. There is less ice to melt and set the soil. The trees lack water to fight flames. Planes spread chemicals to limit sun, which also rains down onto the soil and into the roots of tree which kills them. Governments deny this activity or call it research. But we can see and test it. Trees poisoned by sky chemicals easily burst into flames when fire comes near.

The politician, here Jerry Brown, states helpless consternation with fires and says it can only get worse. But wait! Jerry Brown is allowing oil wells to be dug in California. The oil which is sold then heats the atmosphere which creates the flames. Is Brown too stupid to see the connection. Or is a payoff in his pocket? How many politicians are gambling now, hoping to miss the final extinction before becoming wealthy?

Winner Takes All

Those who own the earth we live on are gamblers who set the stakes. For them, it all boils down to money. It is a conversion factor of life into chips. The one who has the most chips when the tally closes, wins. Closure is set by mass extinction.

People are called to mine various resources. Zooming ahead to the finish line does not support life. Take Mountain Top Removal. Miners no longer work underground. Most are replaced by machines. The mountain top is shaved down to the line of coal. Soil and chemicals fall into streams. The land is polluted. There are landslides which kill people. Money makes the decision. More coal to sell the world’s great polluter.

Some dig for oil, for precious metals, diamonds for this or that. Some go into factory farming. They do monocropping which sets us up for a virus that will wipe out all we eat. They use chemicals that kill insects including the Monarch butterfly and will kill us as well; They raise animals in vast numbers. Chickens and turkeys and pigs are raised in tiny spaces. Cattle are also kept from grazing and eat out of vats of corn. Chickens are bred to have such huge breasts they can barely walk. Many fall and are trampled. All are upset by crowding and by not the living in open fields to eat worms and bugs and plants and run about. Most are given anti biotics to ward off pre-harvest death. The anti-biotic remains in their flesh which we eventually consume. Among other consequences, we soon will be unreactive to antibiotics when we need them to fight infection. People will die from a cut on their leg.

Since the factory farm animals, number in the thousands, their shit and piss, falls into pipes beneath the floor then collected and drained into huge ponds. Hurricanes pass over capturing the waste if releases onto all in its path. Some factory farms blow the waste into the air when the pond gets too full. This spray rains down on locals whose houses lose all value. The people who live in this flood of waste lead hellish lives.

What about the politicians who set the rules to protect their citizens but hide their eyes from consequences? Take Jerry Brown, Governor of California who mourns the huge number of fires ravaging California. Incidentally, prisoners are paid $2/day to fire fight. They are not given enough instruction to be professional fire fighters once released from prison. Is that another save money proposition for those who own the prisons?

What is the gambler’s stake in these catastrophes? Who profits by ignoring it. The soil is dry from drought. That is the consequence of the Greenhouse effect. There is less ice to melt and set the soil. The trees lack water to fight flames. Planes spread chemicals to limit sun, which also rains down onto the soil and into the roots of tree which kills them. Governments deny this activity or call it research. But we can see and test it. Trees poisoned by sky chemicals easily burst into flames when fire comes near.

The politician, here Jerry Brown, states helpless consternation with fires and says it can only get worse. But wait! Jerry Brown is allowing oil wells to be dug in California. The oil which is sold then heats the atmosphere which creates the flames. Is Brown too stupid to see the connection. Or is a payoff in his pocket? How many politicians are gambling now, hoping to miss the final extinction before becoming wealthy?

Do Something

Government will do nothing for us. The price for candidates running for office is paid for by corporations which later will determine their vote. Slaves, servants, gold diggers, addicts, “buy me” people will make pleasant speeches to the common person about all the good they will do but once elected you are ignored and forgotten. Speeches go in the “seduce them” file undoubtedly to be used again.

Are we commoners to give up and fade away? Are we to beg alms from such as these? Come on, now friend. The bank door is closed.  Be real. We have-to come together, stand together, think together. We need to choose people to vote for from our neighborhood, people we know. If they do not come through once in office, we throw them out. We do not fall for Madison Avenue publicity images and lies. We have-to ignore pressure to turn against one another in order to divide us. white against black, man against woman, hetero against homo, “Americans” against Muslims, anti-teachers, anti-newspapers and on and on. We are being manipulated to vent our rage against people who are in the same boat as we are rather than against politicians that steal from us.

Should we join unions? Yes. In union there is strength. Do not listen to those who hold the purse full of your unpaid wages, trying to convince you that joining a union robs you of your freedom. Speaking together with one voice has power. The corporate elected whore worries. Unions inform that person, you/we will not vote for you again unless we get better wages, health care, retirement benefits, vacation time, job security, like you once promised? Hold the politician’s feet to the fire. They need to feel the heat.

Get together with neighbors and share community tasks. Find your specialty. Make sure that everyone has enough to eat. Do not throw away usable stuff including food. Think about pollution. Eat locally grown foods in season, so that you are not burning fuel to get Thai fruit in winter. Pay your local farmer a good price. Practice NIMBY (Not in my back yard) and decide how big your yard is. No destruction to be allowed there.

Fight to keep your water free of corporate waste. Don’t go to sleep after the election. Know what your elected officials are doing. Are your schools in good shape, supplies provided along with breakfast and lunch? Are teachers rewarded for good teaching; if you are doing NIMBY and your yard includes distant parks, fight against digging for oil in the Arctic where all kinds of animals reproduce. Love polar bears and wolves and eagles and whales and plankton and krill and… “45” wants to look at financial loss when deciding what to preserve. Say “No!” to that. He wants to put decision making about what to protect in the hands of states which lack the money and will to protect almost anything. Don’t let our government end the Endangered Species Act because it interferes with profit. If oil is more important than the preservation of life for a politician addicted to the buck, vote him/her out!

Turn off the TV and internet. Stop enacting a state of helpless non-existence. Enter the world of people, animals, plants. Revel in what you can do to help and do it.